Recently, I was able to clearly see how Transformational Coaching has impacted me, not just in my life, but on a cellular level. Over the weekend, I ran the Shamrock Shuffle, an 8K race through the streets of downtown Chicago, with 24,000 other people all dressed in green. It was a blast.
During my Transformational Coaching I felt huge shifts happening within me, where I was allowing, and awakening to, my desires. With each session, I began to feel an unraveling of unwanted beliefs I was holding in the areas of my life where I felt stuck. Transformational Coaching leads you into your mind, through carefully crafted dialogues, to find the areas where your beliefs are limiting your reach for your desires, and then helps to rewire them; to allow for the outcome and life you ultimately want. We call it, “being different without having to remember to be different.”
I knew at the time of my classes that change was occurring in me, but I’m not sure I really grasped the level of that change. Near the end of my coaching program I had a group of three ladies come to my home for massages following a half-marathon race. One of the ladies is a regular client of mine. During our session, I mentioned to her that, at some point, I would love to join her on a race and push myself, and my body, to those limits. She immediately invited me to join them for two, back-to-back, half-marathons in June 2016, out West. The races are high elevation, often on mountain trails, on back-to-back weekends, and did I mention, each 13.1 miles. The question I asked myself was: Who would I have to be to run two half-marathons, to travel with new people, to take the time off of work, to be willing to leave my dogs for 12 days, and to believe in myself that my sight issues wouldn’t limit me? When I really sat with the question, I realized I would have to be the girl I wanted to be, and so I said yes.
Over the last several months I have been training for the runs. And, while there is no way to train for altitude in the Mid-West, I purposely look for hilly areas to include in my route. As I began the training though, my body began to revolt. My low back issues became hip issues, which became endless sleepless nights in pain. Despite all my stretching, cross-training, icing, clay hot packs, massages, and rest time; my body just wasn’t coming around. At one point I honestly considered dropping the races and just going on the travel adventure. But, my mom said to me, “Just have fun.” She was right. Why was I putting all this pressure on my body to be able to tackle these huge races? I realized I was actually alright with even walking them if I had to. I mean, I walk around nine to eleven miles each day, as it is, dog walking.
Being able to be flexible with myself was a huge growth that I could easily see. Before coaching, I would have pressured myself to achieve this huge, nearly impossible obstacle which is intimidating to even seasoned runners. I would have been embarrassed by my body’s limitations, and I would have beat myself up mentally for not pushing myself harder. However, now, with the changes from my coaching, I am able to let all those pressures go. I don’t hold my success in these races as a definer of who I am. I look at it for what it is – an adventure. An opportunity to be deep within the magic of nature, powered by my own legs, through this difficult terrain. I see the fun of being with new people, and learning about who they are, and marveling at our commitment to the trip. Basically, I’ve stopped comparing myself to others. This is huge, right? Huge! Being able to value ourselves not based on achievement, not based on comparison, not based on health limitations, but rather, just standing strong with who we are.
I often envision the scene from the “Wizard of Oz,” where they pull back the curtain to reveal that the Great and Powerful Wizard of Oz is actually just a normal guy. When we stop pressuring ourselves to appear as the Great and Powerful Wizard to others, and often ourselves, we are able to embrace that we are simply people, who can still effectively help others. We don’t need to pretend, or pressure ourselves, because we are enough, right now, in this moment, just the way we are.