What an exciting day!  I just launched my new website, www.balancedpresence.com, and it’s beyond my wildest dreams.  Now, mind you, my previous website was serving me fine, but my new website is more user-friendly and allows for immediate updates to my schedule availability; I assure you, those are amazing perks.  Did I mention that the sassy-ness level is off the charts?

Beyond the new logo, and designer code beaming out an incredible layout, it has also changed how I feel about my business.  The professionalism of the new website has upped the professionalism I feel towards my businesses.  It’s incredible when we “unpause” the procrastination button of our lives; how invigorating it can feel.

I have studied many ideas on procrastination, but what I have come to believe is that, procrastination often stems from unrealistic expectations of ourselves.  Many are burdened with the idea of perfectionism; holding the idea that they would never be able to complete their goal with absolute perfection, so they are paralyzed with inaction.  Yet, what I would also offer to this idea is – what is perfect?  What I deem perfect and what you deem perfect are likely not the same.  Trust me, I understand.  When I first started publishing these articles I would get really down when I discovered a typo.  I have a personal editor, the paper’s editor, and my rereading to catch those errors, so when they get through, I would feel like somehow everyone was going to perceive me as less than I am.  Yes, all that – over a typo.  Mind you, perfectionists hold these unrealistic standards due to deeper beliefs they are holding about themselves, and usually it revolves around the, ‘I’m not good enough’ belief.  Perfectionism is more than organization, it’s about self-expectation, and standards, that create a feeling of value within us.  But your value really has nothing to do with your organized closet, and more to do with your birthright to love and be loved.  Perfectionism is one cause for procrastination, and I can attest that it is curable.

Procrastination might also have to do with our fear of actually reaching our goal.  Procrastinating on a project at work means the feedback is delayed.  Procrastinating on cleaning out your garage might mean the new standard of maintaining it.  Procrastinating on homework might be you convincing yourself it’s not important to you.  Procrastinating on dating means you don’t have to face possible rejection, or even more – acceptance.  Procrastinating on weight loss means you don’t have to make change, and risk failing.  Fear is built on our deeper self-beliefs.  If we trust in ourselves, we know we aren’t going to fail, because we are taking all of the feedback from our actions and growing from it, rather than berating ourselves with it.  If we accept ourselves, we know that there will be days where the garage might get messy, as we get into busy times, but we trust ourselves to plan out time to keep moving towards that new standard.  If we love ourselves, we don’t let a slice of office birthday cake determine if we lack all will power towards weight loss.  These fears, they are all extremely common, and they are red flags that we are not holding ourselves with ultimate love and acceptance.

Procrastination can also happen because we don’t like the options we are faced with.  If we have an impoverished menu of options, we may feel stuck, and thus take no action.  To me, this is where coaching shines, as this is about, not only a new perspective, but also examining what in us hold the belief that the options we see are the only options we are allowing for ourselves.  For example:  A person finds themselves unable to pay their mortgage.  The only option they see is to allow for the property to go into foreclosure.  Now, there are clearly many other options available, but this person is unable to see them.  They don’t consider reaching out to the mortgage lender because they believe that kind of assistance costs money, or they don’t trust large corporations and fear being honest about their predicament.  They may not consider refinancing, or getting a separate bank loan, or government assistance, or their friends and families help through hard times.  All of these are actual options, but the burdened homeowner’s beliefs prevent them from seeing them.  It is a new life perspective that can help us to look on situations with less limiting beliefs, and thus expand our menu options and curb that procrastination.

So, I encourage you to look on your life for areas that you are keeping on pause, and ask yourself what it would mean for you to un-pause them, and take that next step forward.

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